Here are some things we are not doing, starting in 2025:
- Changing all the big things at once
- Interrogating the question of whether we are good enough, every time we think it
- Being less cunty
- Verschlimmbesserung
- Getting sad about leaving things/people/places behind that can’t come with us
- Thinking we’ll find that missing action figure if we just look in the bottom of the box one more time
- Sacrificing the steady on the altar of the satisfying
- Social media arguments
- Tracking whether we’re “doing enough”
- CEOs
- Arts organizations with CEOs
- Valuing vanity above utility
- J.K. Rowling
- Waking up on a day in the middle of January and wondering why, if we previously told ourselves that January always kicks our ass, we are now confused as to why our ass has been kicked
- Letting the brain just keep rrr-rrr-rrring over the same three toxic relationships forever and ever
- Tenuousness
- Imagining it was straight
- Passing up puns
- Hard feelings about our “ambient melancholy”
- Opening Twitter links
- Trying to stop noticing a thing once we’ve noticed a thing
- Believing in “normal”
- Dressing responsibly
- Samantha
- Giving time and space to the dramas of other people who do not understand that we are, merely, a gardener
- Back-to-the-office
- Cutting the trans storyline
- Reaction podcasts
- Worrying that someone will tell us “you’re doing this wrong”
- Gaslighting
- Approaching opportunities as though they aren’t, in themselves, already a huge win
- Pessimism
- Calling forth a new self-to-be, on the solstice when the walls between universes are thin, unless we really mean it